Because of my father’s death, nothing was ever the same.
Life is funny that way. There are these pivotal moments in life, where one thing can happen and it can change everything.
Things don’t look the same, taste the same, feel the same.
Death does that.
When someone we know dies, our whole perspective on reality shifts. It doesn’t matter if it’s your first time knowing someone to die or your 10th. Death brings change.
Just like when a baby is born, life is never the same. Life and death may look completely different, but they’re different sides of the same coin.
With my father’s death, everything in my life changed, and I needed help. I was depressed, helpless, hopeless, and I just didn’t know what to do. I’m not sure what gave me the strength to continue, but something did, and I didn’ t waste the opportunity.
It’s been almost 5 years since he passed away now. And during those years, I’ve had to take hard looks inwards and heal a lot of aspects of myself. Here are 3 lessons that I’ve learned that have helped me to accept my father’s death.
Nobody Leaves You Too Early, Or Too Late
This is a spiritual lesson which really changed my perspective on relationships. I’ve learned that everyone is put in your life spiritually for a reason. Everyone enters our lives as signposts that point us in the direction to our higher self.
This happens through people showing us our strengths, our flaws, our beliefs. Everything we see in someone else is just something we see in yourself. Other people reveal different parts of our self to us.
When someone ends up leaving your life, whether by choice, by fading away, or by death, the timing is always perfect.
Everything that person had to reveal to you had already been revealed.
The relationship was complete, it was perfect.
They’ve left you with exactly what you need to reach your highest self.
So what do you do with that once they leave?
Your Relationship Continues With Others After They Leave
Another important lesson I learned is that a relationship isn’t over when someone isn’t physically around anymore. You still have a connection with that person that you need to nurture.
There’s still a space you share within your spirit that will reveal more things to you. Memories will trigger revelations. Different perspectives on how your relationship was will reveal your own growth.
There’s an infinite amount of ways on how you can heal, and become a better person because of a relationship you have with someone that is no longer around
My dad passed away almost 5 years ago and our relationship still teaches me things regularly.
Breaking Generational Curses
I feel like I have a duty to become aware and change the generational curses that have been passed on to me.
This happens to all of us. Our parents leave us with the demons that they themselves hadn’t cured yet. We’re left to pick up the pieces and do the spiritual work they hadn’t done.
Personally, I feel like what I have to deal with is my dad’s undealt with anger. It flows through me, and I have to learn how to turn it into something compassionate and kind. It’s my life’s work at the moment.
I won’t leave that to my son.
My father’s death has shown me that life continues on after someone dies. And with that life, a lot of healing and change can occur.
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